The wedding invite has been haphazardly stuck to the fridge for weeks now. But that call for cocktail or black-tie attire? You know you’ve been completely ignoring it. And now it’s officially time to prepare. So relax and read on – we’re going to tell you how to nail it.


Cocktail: When the dress code requests cocktail attire, you have some room for creativity. Opt for a dark suit (think navy or charcoal), then have some fun with your shirt-and-tie combination. Try a solid color or a subtle pinstriped dress shirt with a punchy silk tie in a paisley or diagonal-stripe print.

Black Tie: This sounds intimidating, but embrace the ease of what is essentially a fancy-wedding uniform. Grab a black tuxedo – with silk lapels and a trim fit for a slimming, modern vibe – then add a crisp white dress shirt, black tie or bow tie, and shined-up black dress shoes. Voilà, done. 

Ready to get dressed? Our Best (Dressed) Man: Style for Late-Summer Weddings Boutique opened Thursday, August 7, at 11AM ET.

By Chrissy Makkas, Staff Writer

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August 7, 2014

Could it be? Did Jennifer Lawrence and boyfriend Nicholas Hoult secretly elope and not tell anyone besides Martha Stewart? Sadly, no. But the Hunger Games star is featured on the latest issue of Martha Stewart Weddings.

JLaw’s brother, Blaine, got married this past October, and Martha Stewart Weddings caught the nuptials on camera. Dressed in flowing ivory J.Crew gowns, the actress and ten other bridesmaids surround her new sister-in-law on the magazine’s cover.  Just don’t scan the page too fast, or you might miss her looking – dare I say it – normal.

By Brianna Lapolla, Staff Writer

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April 8, 2014

In a word, no. And you cannot try to squeeze in an exception with that seriously weak they’ll-barely-eat-or-do-anything excuse.

Why is it pretty much always unacceptable to bring someone who wasn’t on the invitation? Let me count the ways.

Dear Rue: Uninvited Guest

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September 19, 2013


Shaina has spent years helping friends, family, and coworkers with thorny social issues (graciously and gently, of course). Starting today, she’ll bring Rue’s manners-with-style voice to your etiquette questions.

First, take a deep breath and don’t panic. It’s of course a great honor to be selected for the wedding party. And no one would deny that you care for the bride and groom.

However, none of this means that you automatically have to do it.

Dear Rue: Wedding Party

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August 22, 2013

We all know the age-old wedding adage, “something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.” Legend has it, if a bride carries all four on her wedding day, her marriage will be a happy one. Well, call me superstitious, but I believe it. So, just in case this single gal’s knight in shining armor ever arrives, here’s what I’ll be bringing to the alter:


Our For all the Celebrating: Bride-to-Be Style Boutique opens Friday, January 18, at 11AM ET.

By Keriann Coffey, Associate Blog Editor

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January 18, 2013

The Frills Lead the Way

This time of year, our calendar is rife with summer weddings: vineyard tie-the-knots, crown-of-roses-in-your-hair garden affairs, and jazzy cultured “I do’s” at the MET. We’re flirting with LWDs for non-weddings, and we love the thrill of a new floral or stripe, but we’ll also find lots of ways to wear the always faithful little black dress. Here, our stylist Evan proposes his truisms for party dress styling:

1. We believe that wooden wedges were made for vineyard weddings (especially of the hot-to-trot python variety). Ditch any worry about sinking in the ground. Arm yourself with these clear bangles and raise your glass to the happy couple.

2. We believe that strands of pearls were made for museum weddings (especially with the interplay of large and small). Slip into a pair of leggy black heels and dance circles around paintings by Picasso and Matisse.

3. We believe that bows were made for garden weddings (especially when they’re sprinkled with polka dots). Cinch a day-glo orange belt around the waist, lace up these black-and-white oxfords, and cha-cha real smooth among the daisies and daffodils.

As always, it’s best to consult the invite for the dress code de rigeur.

June 22, 2011


Two Friends Talk Flowers

Fresh from designing the flowers for our Style. I Do! photo shoot, Tangerine Creations Creative Director Orly Khon sat down with her friend, Rue La La Style Editor Rachel Solomon, to talk work, weddings, and why their worlds aren’t so different after all.

Rachel: I’ve known you for so long, but have never even asked how you got into the flower world!
Orly: Seven or eight years ago I had a friend in event planning, and I began to work events here and there. I was always in interior design, but there was something about working with flowers that I just loved.
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May 27, 2010