While this issue may not be quite as delicate or tricky as actual politics, office gift giving can certainly feel just as dangerously diplomatic. Before you venture into office-relations waters, here’s a checklist of important factors to remember.
Why not? Let’s phrase it this way: Do holiday gift givers have the right to demand you use their gift? No. Here, it’s absolutely no different. A guest who brings wine to your dinner party is giving you a gift. And therefore, it is completely your choice whether or not to serve it.
If you’re still feeling just a teensy bit guilty about that decision, don’t. Here’s why.
The most important thing to keep in mind: There is no blanket rule. No one wants to be that so-early-it’s-super-uncomfortable guest at an open-house party (à la Michael Scott on The Office). But what friends with restaurant reservations would like to be left waiting at the dinner table?
Here’s a quick guide to some key arrival etiquette.
Shaina has spent years helping friends, family, and coworkers with thorny social issues (graciously and gently, of course). Starting today, she’ll bring Rue’s manners-with-style voice to your etiquette questions.
First, take a deep breath and don’t panic. It’s of course a great honor to be selected for the wedding party. And no one would deny that you care for the bride and groom.
However, none of this means that you automatically have to do it.